Difference between girls and boys having feelings for others

How often do you have feelings for guy/girl when you saw one passing by or with a group of friends?

I have to say that it is easy for boys (even ones with girlfriends) to have feelings for many girls they randomly see. So I kind of feel like this is something that is so common for boys to the point that they don't think of it as anything important or special. Of course, unless it is the type of boys who are willing to cheat or does not have a girlfriend and wants one would go for them. But let's talk about the ones that won't cheat or have more self control. They actually still have feelings for other girl. Don't you think so, Mr Boy? Of course, maybe this is so common to you that you don't even consider that as feeling.  So they don't have to care about this. But if this is like this way then it is different: first boys become friends with a girl and feelings are being developed. If more then one girl, then it depends on how things goes. The result is can be that I boy keep silent and end up with someone else, the boy will like one of the girl, can end up like both girls, or like both but choose one that he prefer more.
Hey love is not about feelings. It is self sacrificing.

As for girls, I find it weird. Girls seem like they don't have feeling for boys most of the boys. So when they have feelings for a boy, they actually go crazy. If the boy continue to attack her emotion. That girl can lost and be with him. Why I said this? This is because I learned some thing in biology, read a book about girl's brain and saw some very conscious who does not believe what I said who ended in this situation. So compared to boys, having feelings for a girl is like once in a blue moon. This is true, someone who is very conscious and does things to the point, and they think some people who is so crazy in the relationship was stupid actually ended up that way. It is not a bad thing to be that way. It is good to like someone that way. I also find it strange that when girls become best friends with a boy, they will say we are friends and only friends. Seems like becoming close as a friend with girl actually make the girl like you least while it is opposite for a boy. Last I was watching TV and some girl rejected guy by saying "...If there is anything that I gave you the wrong impression, I am sorry." I was like, "ahh being a girl is already making the boy attracted to you. You don't have to do anything."


I would say guys probably have feeling for girls at a rate of 8 girls per a minute. Which girls are 1/16 boys per a minute. Just an example. Not accurate prediction. But probably have similar approximation ratio result.

So I still think that it is like nothing when you have feelings for someone as a boy but it is really a big deal for a girl. Do you disagree? If you do, please post your comment.

But even if you disagree, it can't be proved. Because, a boy or a girl can't switch bodies to experience how they would feel if they change gender. Obvious, if you change body, your emotion will change, hormone will change and maybe your whole personality will change. So you will feel something totally different.

Why people get hurts in a relationship so easily?

Do you know why people get upset in a relationship so easily?

Maybe you do. One of the reasons is people express all their emotions to their partner since these people believe they are the person that they can trust and can show their wild side, which also mean, not controlling what you do and what you say. In fact, there is another 2 reasons cause these people to get hurt.

 

Reason 2:

Many people love someone using their emotion only, not their moral mind. I believe most of the people think, true love is always control by your mind, it is not true love. Love is by emotion. Because of that, it is easy to cause yourself to feeling up and down. Happy, sad, angry and crazy. So this way you can get negative more easily and cause problems. Emotion will cause a person to go crazy and might do something their mind won't have done.

Like "Oh, she fall down. I am her boy friend. I am suppose to panic or shows that I worry and care about her a lot." Yes you can say that he is acting. But at least he is willing to act. So he is sacrificing what he might not want to do to help her girlfriend. But how about if you think this way. Someone who love his girlfriend a lot but does not show much.

Like "I really love my girlfriend. But as long as she know it, then it is fine." Hey, it maybe true that the first guy might be acting. However, in reality, everyone see him as a caring person. While the second person is just feeling that he love her. In reality, if this action was never done, your love will never be expressed to the other person. If you did not express, then it is the same as never loved her. As you see, love is more on self sacrificing then to just have feeling. In the past, there are countless of people who start out without feeling and ended love each other so much later on. Why? Because there is no such thing as forcing yourself to do something. It is just if you let yourself to try.

Wait, I did not say you only have to love someone with your mind and have no feelings. That is just an example that even someone who does not have feeling can love better than someone that have feelings.

Hey, people does not have feeling 24/7. If they do, that is lovesick. It will be a problem in daily life. It is true. So it is normal for you to not to have feeling from time to time. But you will realize if something happen, you might panic and worry.

Of course, it would be good if you can love someone with your feelings, heart, and your mind. But ask yourself, do you love with your mind, your feelings or both. Sometime you don't know if you are doing so much for one person because it is your feeling that is controlling you or your mind is the one that is controlling you to do this much for this person. Because sometimes when you have feelings, you can't tell. I know about myself. I know my feeling clearly and my mind clearly. But do you?

Reason 3 is the main cause of this. Most people don't know about this. In fact, many people hand over their happiness to their lover. People always want the other person to do what he or she desire.

But no one in this world know what are you thinking and can do what you are thinking. Sometimes you handle over your happiness without knowing it. If you are expecting your lover to do something for you, then you are putting your happiness into someone else's hand. This will make yourself unhappy and blame your lover if he or she fail to do so. This is very bad for a relationship. You should keep you happiness to yourself (meaning don't expect anything from your lover but that does not mean you don't trust him or her) and maybe from time to time, your lover will surprise you.

To be honest, your happiness comes from inside of you. Not from outside. Even when people do things to make you happy. That is because you like what that person did. So your feelings still comes from yourself. Therefore, don't expect what your lover do for you and keep your happiness in your hands.

Hey, can you tell me what your lover always wants? Do you know what your lover is thinking about? You probably can't do what he/she is expecting from you. So you should not expect from your lover too.

HW

Don't know what is love!!!

You know many girls actually said that they don't know what is love. I am not too sure why!!!!
But I do have a slight idea of why they think this way. This is probably because they watch too many movies. In the movie, you feel that it is so romantic in a romance scene. Therefore, most likely these girls believe this is that love feeling. In fact, it is not. This is just some kind interesting scenes not much difference from a cool action movie. This is just one of the factors, but this is not always the case.


SECOND FACTOR IS BECAUSE OF THEIR FEELINGS. Girls feeling are affected by their hormones. They may feel something for one moment and nothing for the next moment. So even when they actually love the guy, they don't know it. That is why, sometime you need some bad situation like about to lose that person in order to know how important and much you love that person.

Last factor is that they sometime define love very complex. Actually love is very simple. Just being with that person and feeling happy and care if he is safe and health. Does not have to be like wanting to see you everyday. Does not have to be too crazy about the person.

So this is my definition of love. So for those of you who has problem and don't know what is love, what is you opinion? Please comment!!!!!

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P.S: I also want to know why some boys don't believe in love.

H.