Do you know why people get upset in a relationship so easily?
Maybe you do. One of the reasons is people express all their emotions to their partner since these people believe they are the person that they can trust and can show their wild side, which also mean, not controlling what you do and what you say. In fact, there is another 2 reasons cause these people to get hurt.
Reason 2:
Many people love someone using their emotion only, not their moral mind. I believe most of the people think, true love is always control by your mind, it is not true love. Love is by emotion. Because of that, it is easy to cause yourself to feeling up and down. Happy, sad, angry and crazy. So this way you can get negative more easily and cause problems. Emotion will cause a person to go crazy and might do something their mind won't have done.
Like "Oh, she fall down. I am her boy friend. I am suppose to panic or shows that I worry and care about her a lot." Yes you can say that he is acting. But at least he is willing to act. So he is sacrificing what he might not want to do to help her girlfriend. But how about if you think this way. Someone who love his girlfriend a lot but does not show much.
Like "I really love my girlfriend. But as long as she know it, then it is fine." Hey, it maybe true that the first guy might be acting. However, in reality, everyone see him as a caring person. While the second person is just feeling that he love her. In reality, if this action was never done, your love will never be expressed to the other person. If you did not express, then it is the same as never loved her. As you see, love is more on self sacrificing then to just have feeling. In the past, there are countless of people who start out without feeling and ended love each other so much later on. Why? Because there is no such thing as forcing yourself to do something. It is just if you let yourself to try.
Wait, I did not say you only have to love someone with your mind and have no feelings. That is just an example that even someone who does not have feeling can love better than someone that have feelings.
Hey, people does not have feeling 24/7. If they do, that is lovesick. It will be a problem in daily life. It is true. So it is normal for you to not to have feeling from time to time. But you will realize if something happen, you might panic and worry.
Of course, it would be good if you can love someone with your feelings, heart, and your mind. But ask yourself, do you love with your mind, your feelings or both. Sometime you don't know if you are doing so much for one person because it is your feeling that is controlling you or your mind is the one that is controlling you to do this much for this person. Because sometimes when you have feelings, you can't tell. I know about myself. I know my feeling clearly and my mind clearly. But do you?
Reason 3 is the main cause of this. Most people don't know about this. In fact, many people hand over their happiness to their lover. People always want the other person to do what he or she desire.
But no one in this world know what are you thinking and can do what you are thinking. Sometimes you handle over your happiness without knowing it. If you are expecting your lover to do something for you, then you are putting your happiness into someone else's hand. This will make yourself unhappy and blame your lover if he or she fail to do so. This is very bad for a relationship. You should keep you happiness to yourself (meaning don't expect anything from your lover but that does not mean you don't trust him or her) and maybe from time to time, your lover will surprise you.
To be honest, your happiness comes from inside of you. Not from outside. Even when people do things to make you happy. That is because you like what that person did. So your feelings still comes from yourself. Therefore, don't expect what your lover do for you and keep your happiness in your hands.
Hey, can you tell me what your lover always wants? Do you know what your lover is thinking about? You probably can't do what he/she is expecting from you. So you should not expect from your lover too.
HW
