What do you do when your feeling changed?

What do you do when you don't have anymore feeling for your boyfriend or girlfriend. Yet, your lover did not do anything wrong and it still love you. Also after this, you saw someone else and you have feeling for him/her. So what do you do?

As a boy for is good, usually I think they will ignore and don't care about that. They will continue with their relationship. Just that he will not do as much. However, he will still try his best. I would this kind of boy. My reason and logic is that as a lover, you should be responsible and loyal. No one can have this love excitement feelings for ever until there is alot of life and death situation for you everyday or your just live with this partner away from society. Plus, when you don't have this excitement feeling anymore but you will have the developement feelings. You should appreciated this feeling. This is more happy then that excitement feeling. "To love with just feeling not true love. True love is love with your mind as well." By me (H.Wu)

For boys who really want excitement: They will break up in a sneaky. They will use a strategy like making an excuse for breaking up. Like sometime girl can get unreasonable and get angry at a boy. This is a chance for a boy to escape. So this way it seems like that did not do anything bad or wrong. It is the girl fault or he had enough of her temper. Something like that. This is a weakness of girls since they get upset very easily.

For girls, I think very loyal will stay with the boy. But now I don't know. I realized that girls are out of control if they have feeling for another boy, they go crazy and might leave. As long as the girl does not go near that boy often, they will be safe and won't cheat or anything like that. So id you are a girl, can you post your comments about girl in this situation?

Very deeply in love.

Who is very deeply in love with someone?

Many people are just in love with someone but they are not really that in love with their partner. Why? When they break up, they just find another partner. So I want to ask, to what degree do you love your partner?

The strongest type of love is baka(stupid): You love someone that you will use your life to wait for this person. You will not care about any other people or anyone that actually give you some feelings. Even if the person that you love is not worth it, you will continue to believe in him/her without caring how painful or hurt you are. Always think of the lover first before themself.

Second place type is someone that will love their lover. They will give chance to their partner but limited. They will protect their lover with their life. Also will respect them. Actually, I did not mention this in the strongest type of love above but it also contains this.

Third place type is someone that will still protect their lover with their life and respect them. But wouldn't give chances if they betray you one time.

So on to the 4th, 5th and...

So do you have what it takes to be the strongest type? I am somewhat close to the first type. Cause there is someone that I like so much that I keep thinking of her and I don't mind enduring pain for my life. sobsob! I don't want to say too much about this. lolz!!

p.s Oh! I forgot to say! When come to love, I decided to be stupid then be smart. That is my way of love. hehe

Rejecting someone you like/love?

Have you ever reject someone that you like when they indirectly confessed to you?

I did and I did it twice and did not even realized that after I asked my friends two to three years later(2010). Ahhh! I am super slow. Yes! It took me 2 to 3 years to realized that what happen and why we did not talk anymore. One time (2006), I took it as if she was referring to something negative. The other time(2008), was that I was playing 2 games at a time and did not pay close attention and told her "we are friends" and I liked them. Oh to be clear, I am not making fun of them. I just feel very stupid when I think about it. So that is my story.

What is your story? Any of these experience? Any comments?

In your life time, you will meet 4 persons.

"In your life time, you will encounter 4 persons.
The first person is yourself.
The second person is the person you love the most.
The third person is the person that loves you the most.
The fourth person is the person you will be with for life.
Person number 2, 3, and 4, will it be the same person? It depends on your fate."

Don Li and Mandy Chiang



It is kind of true except these who are not going to love or stay single for life. But do you think that your partner is the 2nd, 3rd, and 4th person? It is rare! Maybe the person you are with might not be the person that you will be with for life or they actually might not be the 3rd person for you. Human can lie or keep quiet about certain things. They can look so honest and there is no prove to tell if they are lying or telling the truth. So all you can do is to trust him/her. Cause if you truly love someone, you don't need prove. lolz 

But I have to say, having someone that love you the most is harder to find compared to someone that you love. Actually, it does not feeling that great to love someone alot while they only love you a little. Cause it is very easy for you to have love sick and get upset very easily. Instead, finding someone who love you more is better. Because they are willing to do more for you and so on.

But it would be funny if all four person is yourself. Narcissist!!!

So what do you think? Any comments? Maybe you might disagree with me about finding someone that love you more then you love them. I know everyone wants to find what they love. But it is just painful later with an exception that you have a lucky chance that you find the person who is number 2, 3, and 4. Lolz 

When you love a person you should...

"When you love a person you should love how they originally look like. You have to love their good and bad side. Also love their positive and negative personality."

Mandy Chiang and Don Li

Do you agree? When you love someone you should accept everything about him/her instead of adopting to them. You should not based it on whether you like it or not. Each person have things they like and don't like. Sometimes when you change someone, you might realized the change is may cause you to dislike it even more. Cause becoming different will also change the positive things about them too. Some good things come with a balance of some negative things that person have. 

Don't you agree?

Break up because .....

It is funny, some people actually break up because they love each other too much. Why?
It is because it is painful and hurts when you want that person to do something but fails to do so.
So they don't want to feel that pain and decided to end it even though they love each other.

First, many time people break up because of a rash and angry moment. Actually they still love each other. If they come back and talk to each other, you will probably still find that you still love each other. Is that true for you?

What is your reason for breaking up? Did you actually regret after you declared a break up the next moment (not now)?

Waiting and pain

Have you been in a situation where you love someone and that person either does not like you or make you wait? Haha! I experienced  both one time. I know it is very sad. I really hate it. For me, I was not able to concentrate on anything at that moment. Thinking about it make me feel hurts. So why I mention this? That is because I have two friends which one of them is in a similar situation. I can understand his feelings. He is only waiting. But I remember waiting was definitely very painful. It probably make that person remember this painful experience for ever. I really wish to help my friend but I don't know what to do. Cause both of them is my close friend and one of them is hurting the other one.

So what is your experience? Anything similar and can share?